This is great. There’s so little Ace representation in canon media or fic. When there is an ace they tend to just not draw attention to them. Nice to see Damian getting some reassurance. And I’d LOVE to see this as a short story series too!
Thank you! I’m glad you liked the fic. There really is so little representation of asexuality which is why I wanted to write something for Asexy April in the first place. There should be more fic interpreting characters as asexual or the gray-a scale and all of that.
It’s a definite possibility that this will become something of a series. I don’t have any ideas for what else to write at the moment, but if people are interested I might take some prompts to help me get started.
There are a whole bunch of things you could potentially tackle I think.
For starters, any of the people you mentioned Damian being worried about coming out to could be interesting. Dick would be totally open to it of course (and I’d kind of love to see his reaction because he’d be so supportive and probably so happy that Damian felt comfortable enough to tell him to begin with). And I found it interesting that you mentioned BRUCE might not ‘get’ it right away. That could definitely be something interesting to tackle. Other not-mentioned family members could come up as well, like Cass, Babs, Jason, Alfred, etc. Or Tim who has apparently studied it? Damian is so on guard around Tim that could be an interesting conflict, if he’s expecting trouble (and even better if there isn’t any).
Then of course there are some of the stickier ‘ace problems.’ You addressed the feeling ‘broken’ issue, and there are other common mean things people say too (unintentionally or no), like “it’s just a phase, you’ll get over it/you just haven’t met the right person yet” or “it must be so lonely/boring/empty without wanting romance/sex” or “that’s not a real thing/you just made it up/you’re being trendy get over yourself” or any other things like that. You could do it with Damian dealing with it personally, or having a family member backing him up (or even asking it without realizing it can come across as offensive. A lot of aces I’ve heard stories from know their family totally means well, they just don’t understand it).
Or that awkward moment when a family/friend tries to set you up with a boy/girlfriend because they think you’d be a good match and you have to explain, ‘er, no,’ that might be an interesting thing for Damian to deal with. (Or somebody asking him out directly, which can also be awkward).
Or that awkward moment when friends/family start discussing things with sexual innuendo/everybody gets together to watch a movie and you get bored with the sex/romance scenes/you skip the sexy parts of books and don’t even bother with the latest and greatest romance novels, there could be some potential there too!
And just think of the benefits in combat! Poison Ivy using her pheromones to control the guys because she’s oh-so-sexy? Damian says ‘lolnope’ and saves the day. Random opponent trying to seduce a batfam member in true batfam tradition? Damian says ‘HAH yeah right’ and is not distracted as he kicks butt.
There’s definitely a lot of potential and a lot to work with, I think. I hope that helps with ideas?
Wow, all of this is really great.
My muse for the batfam has been totally off kilter lately, but these ideas may bring it back to life.
I like the idea of exploring the benefits of asexuality in combat. The Poison Ivy idea is perfect. And I really like the idea of an enemy trying to seduce him and it just falling really flat. And really, everything else you’ve mentioned.
I totally think that Bruce would have trouble with grasping the difference between choosing not to have sex and relationships even though you want them because you are broody and don’t deserve them, etc. and being asexual. Getting through to him would be a process.
(Oh, and I should mention, in this universe Tim is demi-sexual and biromantic. That’s why he and Steph were doing research back in the day. It’s not exactly a secret, but Tim doesn’t like to broadcast and at this point has no desire for Damian to know about his sex life. So Steph avoids going into details.)
I want to avoid going through how each member of the family takes it, in part because I feel like that sort of coming out story is a bit over done? It would be good to touch on it and maybe write about it later. But I’d like to cover more of the “ace problems” you mentioned as well as asexy adventures in crime fighting.
Thank you again for these ideas.